Inspiring Words from a Follower of Rabbi David Bar-Hayim

The following are two letters recently received by Machon Shilo which provide some insight into both the inspiration many Jews receive from the teachings of Rabbi David Bar-Hayim and also the difficulties some Jews encounter when their spouses resist a new approach for fear of what others will say.
Rabbi Bar-Hayim urges us not to despair. Of course, when it comes to family relationships one must be sensitive to realities on the ground – but know that others have similar challenges and you are not alone.
Good things to do not always come easily! Here are the letters.
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My heart is joyous because you have managed to validate so much of what my husband has felt for so many years about Torah Judaism and the way it is practiced and some of its lack of application in the real world.
We have turned friends onto your Torah teachings but as you know from experience, it is only a handful that permits themselves to delve into the truth as it takes great courage to be open to perceiving Torah teachings in a new way. Another interesting reality is that many wives are challenged by their husbands going against the old ways or learning new ways of living Torah now that they are residing in the Holy Land.
Be’H, I believe that more Rabbis like you are needed to make the shift occur and I believe it will happen especially as a result of your powerful, beautiful, dynamic giftedness in the realm of disseminating Torah.
May Hashem rain down blessings of success in all your endeavors and bring great blessings to you and your family.
My husband and I live in Tzfat and are hoping Be’H to attend your class at some point. We are very excited at the prospect.
ALL the best,
Sincerely, Ariella Bracha Waldinger
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My husband was divinely guided to the site…can’t even remember when it happened. At first, I was skeptical but then I read the Rav’s biography and prayed that HaShem should open my heart and soul to be able to discern truth and I began to receive its truth and beauty.
One of the main challenges of women today is their people pleasing nature and their need to fit in, plus they don’t like to rock the boat, thus when their husbands want to share the Rav’s Torah, it sends a shock wave to their mind and they become fearful of where this new learning might lead. They try to stop their husbands from learning it or they invalidate his ability to discern truth and they shut him down. I see it all the time. I also know because I used to do it……this is more prevalent among American Bal teshuva women.
Baruch Hashem, a Mack truck couldn’t stop my husband from doing what he feels is right and true, so from that strength, he has guided me into the most amazing and fulfilling Torah life.
ALL the Best, Ariella Bracha